There has been a lot of talk about "super" women who are giving birth without drugs, gas or epidurals especially on social media from their admiring husbands. And I get it, in the eyes of a man every woman going through labour is a superwoman especially as they feel powerless during this time and want to validate and appreciate their partners for all they are capable of.
However I feel this can have a detrimental effect on pregnant women who are already unsure about what labour will bring, what choices they will make and what criticism they will receive. Pregnant women have pressure on them from every angle but especially from themselves.
I see every woman who gives birth under any circumstances, with or without drugs, at home, in hospital, caesarian or vaginal delivery as superwomen!! Just to go through the pregnancy process, the changes in your body, the anxiety and fear of what it going to happen throughout labour is about as superwoman as you can get. So congrats to everyone who can go through the process without drugs if that is what you have chosen but by no means does this make someone else less of a woman who chooses another birth path. Every pregnancy, delivery and woman is different and as long as you are ok with the choices you make for your body and child then nothing else matters. Remove the shame or guilt that you might feel and remove the subconscious judgement of others that we are all capable of as human beings. Next time you see an amazing partner praising their woman who has gone through childbirth, see if for exactly what it is, a man loving and praising his woman for making it safely through pregnancy and childbirth.
You are all superwomen in my eyes and the best thing is after labour you become a mum. The best gift of all.
I'm Melanie, a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist.
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